I teach people how to treat me by what I allow.

- Steve Covey

When I first was introduced to the the concept of appreciation languages, I must say, I was a bit skeptical.

Everyone has something that helps with that one thing in which to fix everything. 

Right? 

There is this method, and that code, oh but try this way and that way. 

After you learn these tools, then you are to remember, your animal meaning or color meaning. 

Damn... I must be red bull, cause now I am mad that I just spent the weekend learning the formula and now I forgot. 

At the time, I was going through my own personal self-growth, and always looking for a good audio-book. 

I was traveling to and from Toronto a ton with CUPW (Canadian Union of Postal Workers), as I was union president with negotiations in the very near future.

During one visit, I took advantage of my time in Ontario and headed to Ottawa, where my cousin lives with her family. 

When Marysia introduced and explained to me  the The 5 Love L...

Let's face it, sometimes life is just a whirlwind. 

I can't take the time to smell the roses because I didn't have time to fricken plant the damn rose garden! 

Life if going to happen all around us everyday, whether we like it or not.

That is the perfect guarantee in life. 

What is not the guarantee is how much of that will effect us... 

or is it? 

Something may happen around us, but our thinking of beliefs, emotions and actions are the reason for our results in life. 

You must give yourself the responsibility to make time for your thinking if you want to stay in the game.  

Yes! You have to make time to think! 

But only if it is thinking for a change! 

Not thinking to dwell! 

Understanding the power of your thinking will create the results you want in any area of your life. 

You might be saying, that's fine and dandy miss smiles, but I have too much on my plate to even think about thinking. 

Well all I have to say to that is... 

How's that working for ya?

Everyday, people make ex...

Have you ever moved from one house to another and found yourself driving to your old house after a long day at work?

This has happened to the best of us.

We do this if we change the kitchen cupboards around. 

We do this if we change departments or offices at work. 

Force of habit?

Yes, but here is why... 

Our brains from a very young age are programmed by absolutely everything we do in life. 

We are born a clean slate.

We have the innocent brain just waiting to soak up the information given to us. 

The first time we see a spider... we reach out to explore, mom screams with horror. 

Our brain registers spiders as the scariest thing in our lives at that moment... until the snake appears as we crawl on the grass by the garden, then that becomes the scariest. 

Our experiences compound in our brains forming patterns which create our subconscious mind. 

Moving through life seeing spiders and screaming as if the spider has the largest knife, like Crocodile Dundee, keeping us stuck in fear of a memory tha...

Do you blame others for your unhappiness?

Do you blame others for results in your life?

What if I tell you, it has nothing to do with anyone else?

It has everything to do with you! 

Are you going to have a crappy day and blame me because I told you the truth?

Would you buy a house and let someone rent it for free? 

Well, this is exactly what you are doing when you put blame on others for results you are getting in your life. 

Let me explain.

When you say to someone, "You hurt my feelings when you did that." 

You are telling yourself, I am going to manipulate the situation by making them see my hurt so they change who they are. 

AND

The only way I can be happy is if they change their behavior.

Ummmm...

Then why are you so unhappy?

How easy is it for you to make changes within yourself on a daily basis?

Yet you expect everyone to change around you to meet your needs to become the happiest person around. 

As soon as someones actions, beliefs or emotions do not match what you do, feel or think, the h...

A police officer once told me...

"There are 3 sides to every story. 

There is your side

There is their side

An somewhere in the middle, there is the truth"

That day, my life changed as to how I told stories and how I received stories . 

What happens when we tell a story? 

We attach emotion to the story to make it more enjoyable and believable to the person listening. 

Everyone tells their perspective of their interaction with the circumstance they are speaking of. 

And sometimes the story teller creates new events that take place to spice up the truth to make it more exciting. 

When in Grade 1, did you play telephone? 

Back when I was in grade 1, cell phones and cordless phones were non existent.

A teacher encouraging the class to play a game called telephone in this day and age would be way to distracting. 

But not back in 1981! 

The class would sit in a circle on the reading rug. 

The teacher would pick one student and pull them aside. 

She would whisper into their ear a story, only o...

 Everyone wants to improve where they are right now. Even if they do not admit it. 

It's human nature to want more out of life.

Yes, have gratitude for what is in your life now, it is an amazing tool, but that does not mean learning new tools to add to your gratitude list is wrong.

Hiring a life coach is more and more common to strive for a better life, better career, even a better version of ones self. 

Life coaches are NOT psychiatrists or psychologist, which are more for mental health issues. Yes some are trained to do both.

Life coaches ARE motivators and mentors to push past a specific problem.   

If you had a dream to play in the NHL (National Hockey League) you would attend hockey camps, hockey schools, or maybe your parents would hire you a professional one on one coach to push your skills to the next level. 

If you wanted to be an amazing pianist, you would go to the best arts school, sign up for lessons and maybe a one on one coach to push your skills to the next leve...

Our mindset is our most important asset, especially when we figure out how to create a healthy mindset. The question is, how do we create a healthy mindset. 

Are you the kind of person who reacts first, and says..."Ohhhh crap... I should not have done that, I should not have said that". 

I was a 'screen door open' kind of girl...(sometimes still am). Things that came out of my mouth at times, was not always my proudest moment. 

I didn't think twice about saying what was on my mind, and in moments, at others expense. Definitely not who I wanted to be. But, I didn't know how to change. I didn't know how to stop the reactions to my thoughts or feeling that were boiling inside of me.

I just knew there was something more. I could feel it, no matter what I did, I knew I had to figure out my emotions.

I fell upon some amazing teachers in my time of need. Oprah being one of them. Just little tidbits of info that I would try out here and there. My favorite was turning everything into...

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