There is an easy distinction between loving someone else and loving ourselves. 

The hard truth is, one is easier than the other to achieve. 

I bet not one person reading this decided loving ourselves was easier. 

Why is loving ourselves so hard? 

Self- love definition: regard for one's own well-being and happiness. 

Sounds pretty simple... look after your well-being, and be happy. 

But for most, it is the hardest thing to achieve.

We look for happiness everywhere!

In a mate!

In things!

In achievements!

Very rarely do we look inside! 

That inside is ourselves! 

And the key to unlock it all. 

Day in and day out there are traps put out daily to challenge our thinking, our emotions, and even our beliefs to what is real or not. 

You spill coffee on your last clean shirt! (Frustration) 

We head into a traffic jam and end up late for work. (Stress)

At work, a co-worker walked past you and glares without saying a word. (Concerned)

Realizing you forgot your lunch with too much work to do to...

 Do you journal?

If you do, then you know the power behind it. 

If you don't...

All the emotions in your world get stuck in your mind, body and soul. 

I believe it is the most powerful of all releases to understanding yourself. 

In my world, it is the way I keep my head from spinning out of control. 

Journaling is one of the most powerful tools that I could offer you.

Why?

Because when you release your thoughts to paper.

You release your truths to a visual.

What was maybe stuck in thought can be seen and dealt with.  

When a question is asked to you first, you would likely ponder or linger on that thought of what was asked.

Second guessing your thinking and changing the thought to mostly what you think others want to hear or even worse, what you want to hear.

It is important for you to have a journal that you love to look at and to hold.

It certainly does not have to be expensive by any means, but you must feel good when you are using it.

I purchased a book before that was purple and pink poke-a-dots...

Have you ever moved from one house to another and found yourself driving to your old house after a long day at work?

This has happened to the best of us.

We do this if we change the kitchen cupboards around. 

We do this if we change departments or offices at work. 

Force of habit?

Yes, but here is why... 

Our brains from a very young age are programmed by absolutely everything we do in life. 

We are born a clean slate.

We have the innocent brain just waiting to soak up the information given to us. 

The first time we see a spider... we reach out to explore, mom screams with horror. 

Our brain registers spiders as the scariest thing in our lives at that moment... until the snake appears as we crawl on the grass by the garden, then that becomes the scariest. 

Our experiences compound in our brains forming patterns which create our subconscious mind. 

Moving through life seeing spiders and screaming as if the spider has the largest knife, like Crocodile Dundee, keeping us stuck in fear of a memory tha...

Do you blame others for your unhappiness?

Do you blame others for results in your life?

What if I tell you, it has nothing to do with anyone else?

It has everything to do with you! 

Are you going to have a crappy day and blame me because I told you the truth?

Would you buy a house and let someone rent it for free? 

Well, this is exactly what you are doing when you put blame on others for results you are getting in your life. 

Let me explain.

When you say to someone, "You hurt my feelings when you did that." 

You are telling yourself, I am going to manipulate the situation by making them see my hurt so they change who they are. 

AND

The only way I can be happy is if they change their behavior.

Ummmm...

Then why are you so unhappy?

How easy is it for you to make changes within yourself on a daily basis?

Yet you expect everyone to change around you to meet your needs to become the happiest person around. 

As soon as someones actions, beliefs or emotions do not match what you do, feel or think, the h...

Our mindset is our most important asset, especially when we figure out how to create a healthy mindset. The question is, how do we create a healthy mindset. 

Are you the kind of person who reacts first, and says..."Ohhhh crap... I should not have done that, I should not have said that". 

I was a 'screen door open' kind of girl...(sometimes still am). Things that came out of my mouth at times, was not always my proudest moment. 

I didn't think twice about saying what was on my mind, and in moments, at others expense. Definitely not who I wanted to be. But, I didn't know how to change. I didn't know how to stop the reactions to my thoughts or feeling that were boiling inside of me.

I just knew there was something more. I could feel it, no matter what I did, I knew I had to figure out my emotions.

I fell upon some amazing teachers in my time of need. Oprah being one of them. Just little tidbits of info that I would try out here and there. My favorite was turning everything into...

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