Do you blame others for your unhappiness?

Do you blame others for results in your life?

What if I tell you, it has nothing to do with anyone else?

It has everything to do with you! 

Are you going to have a crappy day and blame me because I told you the truth?

Would you buy a house and let someone rent it for free? 

Well, this is exactly what you are doing when you put blame on others for results you are getting in your life. 

Let me explain.

When you say to someone, "You hurt my feelings when you did that." 

You are telling yourself, I am going to manipulate the situation by making them see my hurt so they change who they are. 

AND

The only way I can be happy is if they change their behavior.

Ummmm...

Then why are you so unhappy?

How easy is it for you to make changes within yourself on a daily basis?

Yet you expect everyone to change around you to meet your needs to become the happiest person around. 

As soon as someones actions, beliefs or emotions do not match what you do, feel or think, the h...

Guilt is the most convincing emotion. 

Guilt is the most controlling emotion. 

Guilt sucks. 

I know this emotion all to well. 

From a life of having others use it to try and change my mind. 

To using it to try and change others minds.

What does guilt feels like in the body and mind.  

I did a quiet session of just sitting and feeling to find out. 

Suffocating! 

Knotted stomach! 

Mistaken for or creates anxiety! 

Self worth was forgotten in the moment!

When I put myself in this moment it was sad. Of course each people might have similar or very different descriptions, yet I am sure you can understand very well the control it has on you or others. 

If I was to paint a situation for you, which I am sure a lot can relate to, I would use the example of a child needing to get his or her way. 

A separated home, when the child is back and forth from mom's to dad's.

Each parent may have guilt because they couldn't stay to happy for the kids sake of having a happy life.

Yet, I know kids who have amazi...

Our mindset is our most important asset, especially when we figure out how to create a healthy mindset. The question is, how do we create a healthy mindset. 

Are you the kind of person who reacts first, and says..."Ohhhh crap... I should not have done that, I should not have said that". 

I was a 'screen door open' kind of girl...(sometimes still am). Things that came out of my mouth at times, was not always my proudest moment. 

I didn't think twice about saying what was on my mind, and in moments, at others expense. Definitely not who I wanted to be. But, I didn't know how to change. I didn't know how to stop the reactions to my thoughts or feeling that were boiling inside of me.

I just knew there was something more. I could feel it, no matter what I did, I knew I had to figure out my emotions.

I fell upon some amazing teachers in my time of need. Oprah being one of them. Just little tidbits of info that I would try out here and there. My favorite was turning everything into...

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