I teach people how to treat me by what I allow.

- Steve Covey

When I first was introduced to the the concept of appreciation languages, I must say, I was a bit skeptical.

Everyone has something that helps with that one thing in which to fix everything. 

Right? 

There is this method, and that code, oh but try this way and that way. 

After you learn these tools, then you are to remember, your animal meaning or color meaning. 

Damn... I must be red bull, cause now I am mad that I just spent the weekend learning the formula and now I forgot. 

At the time, I was going through my own personal self-growth, and always looking for a good audio-book. 

I was traveling to and from Toronto a ton with CUPW (Canadian Union of Postal Workers), as I was union president with negotiations in the very near future.

During one visit, I took advantage of my time in Ontario and headed to Ottawa, where my cousin lives with her family. 

When Marysia introduced and explained to me  the The 5 Love L...

'When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me'.

- unknown

Obviously, no one will turn into a donkey with assumptions, but definitely have the likely hood of being or looking like a jack-ass.

If you have been following me for sometime, you know I believe there is always 3 Sides to Every Story, not 2. 

Past experiences can create assumptions on the fly. 

If a doctor has a patient come in to his office to check on a large spot that is darkening on the patients skin. 

The GP will ask a series of questions trying to eliminate what he already assumed. 

When the spot appeared, if it is painful, if it is itchy etc. 

The doctor might order a series of tests or send the patient as a referral to a specialist. 

In your head, you are already thinking skin cancer and the specialist is a dermatologist. 

Why, because we see the cancer symptoms loads in media and it so very much in our world that it is becomes easy to assume. 

Yet, that darkening spot could be as simple as age spots, liv...

"Our minds influence the key activity of the brain, which then influences everything; perception, cognition, thoughts and feelings, personal relationships; they're all a projection of you."

Deepak Chopra
 

Have you ever been at a social gathering with that one person who seems to be able to have everyone flocks to and admires? 

You wonder to yourself, what the hell is she doing that makes her so desirable?

Influence!

Nothing less, nothing more. 

Not everyone is born with the gift of influence.

Yes it can come naturally to some. 

And others... well they just try and try and try...

Which ends up looking like an ass kisser. 

It can be learned! 

So what is the magic?

What makes someone who naturally attracts people a great influence?

3 strategies... yes, you can start with 3! 

But first, 

I want to make something VERY clear before we carry on. 

Influencing others is NOT the same as MANIPULATION! 

There is a HUGE difference between influence and manipulation. 

When I was teaching one of m...

There is an easy distinction between loving someone else and loving ourselves. 

The hard truth is, one is easier than the other to achieve. 

I bet not one person reading this decided loving ourselves was easier. 

Why is loving ourselves so hard? 

Self- love definition: regard for one's own well-being and happiness. 

Sounds pretty simple... look after your well-being, and be happy. 

But for most, it is the hardest thing to achieve.

We look for happiness everywhere!

In a mate!

In things!

In achievements!

Very rarely do we look inside! 

That inside is ourselves! 

And the key to unlock it all. 

Day in and day out there are traps put out daily to challenge our thinking, our emotions, and even our beliefs to what is real or not. 

You spill coffee on your last clean shirt! (Frustration) 

We head into a traffic jam and end up late for work. (Stress)

At work, a co-worker walked past you and glares without saying a word. (Concerned)

Realizing you forgot your lunch with too much work to do to...

Everyone has an their own ideas on how they would handle that spoiled rotten kid who runs their parents' lives in a negative way. 

But we have no idea how to manage our employees who have tantrums when they don't get their way, are mean as hell to others or just takeover the workplace in a negative way. 

How's this working for you?

I am going to go out on a limb, that might not be as sturdy as I would like, but I am sure a negative work environment was created by how we have allowed employees to act, work and engage with everyone around. 

So let's get one thing straight, I am not speaking about all workplaces. 

There are some amazing cultures throughout the world who have mastered workplace appreciation, as well as the climate control of the environment in a whole.

When a new employee starts a job, they are excited to be part of a team.

They are proud of the accomplishment of  landing the position of their choice. 

But somewhere from that first day to the present day,...

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