A bitter heart will always eat their owner.
Can you quickly go through your list of known people who are toxic?
Sure you can, everyone knows someone who fits that criteria.
If I was hiring for the position, I am sure you can suggest some very highly over qualified individuals who would be in the running.
If you don't know what a toxic person is, bless your heart!
You are in a great position, but reading this will give you some amazing tools to learn in case you ever run into one.
There are many different types of toxic when I started researching, plus stood out to me as people I have had in my life.
Here are 15 examples of Toxic People.
1. Gossip Grabbers
These people love a great story. These people will deliberately tear down other people. They will usually start off a conversation with an assumption of what is going on in others situations.
Non toxic people will not assume, they will mind their business and if others speak to them about others, they will shut it down.
2. Conversation Hog
People who talk about themselves a lot. Often can't wait for the other person to finish talking, sometimes brutally interrupt in order to say what they have done, they have learned, or they have seen just to hear themselves talk. These people do not show an equal, genuine interest in hearing from you about yourself.
Non toxic people will ask questions about the other person and have a genuine interest in others. They will allow others to finish what they are saying and have a flowing communication style.
3. Emotional Suckers
How about the person who always speaks of their emotional garbage day after day, month after month, sometimes same stories year after year but never take actions or steps to solve or correct their own shit.
Non toxic people will find solutions and take action to their negative situation to better themselves. They will seek the use of tools such as The D.E.B.A.R.Method.
4. Soap Box Monsters
This is when someone needs to minimize your strengths and achievements to make themselves feel better.
Non toxic people will celebrate your achievements and not feel envious of your success, achievements or good fortune.
5. The Naysayer
Any ideas put forth, the person says NO before the thought has even been processed in the brain. Sometimes the NO will be spoken before the question or idea has even been completed in conversation.
Non toxic people will take a moment to answer with a true heart. Taking a slight pause and acknowledgement of what was asked in the first place.
6. The Liar Liar
There is a common technique of little white lie which will not be harmful. Some people use little white lies to be kind, save a friendship or even a marriage when asked sensitive questions. Fact is... everyone does it. When the false stories become toxic is when the liar tells lies and believes it and you start to question your own sanity when you call them on their lies. The liar will such emotion to the drama of being called a liar you question if you heard right.
Non toxic people will hear your story and might agree to disagree that each persons perspective is different and the story was heard wrong. No one lies to make themselves look better or feel better.
7. "I Know" It All.
This might be the saying that gets under my skin the most, but enough about me, tell me if this sounds familiar. The person who says "I Know" abruptly before you are even completed what you are going to say. The person who says "I Know" after you tell them some great news you heard which you are excited about. The person who says "I know" when you have some info on something they were inquiring about.
Non toxic people will say, if they already have heard the story, news "Oh Yes, I did hear that", or "That's right, I was asking for that info". A non toxic person will not feel threatened by you having more info than them.
8. Been There, Done That
Anyone who has been there and done that. They jumped like you but 10 feet higher. They traveled to the same places but stayed 2 weeks longer. The toxic person continues to compare their life to yours, their schooling to yours, their achievements to yours.
Non toxic people don't need to one up you. They are content to listen without wanting to jump in and tell you more about them. The non toxic person will use their knowledge to expand on the conversation not to expand on their ego.
9. Arrogant Angles
Do not mistake this as for confidence in any way, there is a massive difference. Confident people inspire while arrogant people make others feel inferior.
Non toxic people lift others up, not by lifting themselves by standing on someones back.
10. Ego Mania
When people assume and demand the world should revolve around them. They usually offer amazing information about themselves and if you try to switch the subject they will bring it directly back to them. These people are not interested in anything else but them.
Non toxic people desire and equality for everyone.
11. The Control Freak
This person never listens to anybody or anything. They have to have it their way or they act out in anger or passive aggressive way.
Non toxic person does not try to make you feel guilty for wanting to do something different. They share the ideas.
12. The Manipulator
These people can be extremely tricky to deal with. because the friendship has been formed knowing you inside and out. Yet using their knowledge as a part of their hidden agenda to make you do what they want.
Non toxic people will be an influence on you in a positive way. Help you move forward and grow. No hidden agenda.
13. Fake It Till You Make It.
You never know what to think or who these people are as they are almost chameleons and change their personality to fit the people they are with and not truly having a personality of their own.
Non toxic person will be true to themselves, their core values and beliefs. You will know where you stand with them.
14. Soul Sucker
This type of toxic person only comes to you when they are in crisis. They expect you to drop everything to be with them, council them, side with them, give them exactly what they want to hear. There is never any good in their life when they speak to you.
Non toxic person will come to as a friend when things are good or bad. They will tell you great things in their life as well.
This is also known as the blamer. Everyone else is out to get them. Only bad things happen to them. They do not take responsibility for their actions because if other people did not act a certain way they would not behave badly.
Non toxic person will be accountable for their thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions.
I am sure you can find some people in your past path or present that match or have similarities to these toxic types.
Do you know other kinds? Comment below and let me know.
Let's face it, these people will always be in our world.
I like to say they just have not been willing to see the mirror of truth yet.
Hopefully you can understand that this is just a guide to help you remove anyone from your life or adjust your mindset to feel better.
You might find these people are at work and you have to be around them everyday.
A little understanding of who they are and identifying their mental state could give you some insight to the power of breaking free from their control of allowing them to treat you that way.
it is never easy... but doing your work, especially with The D.E.B.A.R Method will help you grow into understanding your thoughts, beliefs and actions are always yours to manage.