The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.
~Kenneth Blanchard
Until you truly know yourself, strengths and weaknesses, know what you want to do and why you want to do it, you can not succeed in your true power. It's only as you begin to examine your life that you are able to identify the your leadership style.
Knowing your strengths of who you are as a leader is a process so many ignore and still wonder why their team around them is not engaged.
You can not begin to lead yourself without an understanding of who you are.
Becoming a leader starts with knowing yourself and what you want to make of your life. It's a foundation of strong character, the relationships you have gained, the knowledge you have collected, the intuition or the deep feeling of knowing, every little bit of experience you have endured and edulged over the years plus your ability of the doing.
Having a deep understanding of your strengths will highlight the areas of your influential l...
I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.
~Albert Einstein
The power to connect with another person is a easier than you think.
Or is it?
For me, I have always been able to meet others and connect so deeply that it feels to some, we have been friends for a lifetime.
Yet I meet others who feels they have nothing in common with anyone they meet.
Trying to be interesting in what they have done, they have learned and accomplished with the other person wondering what the hell is happening.
There is that awkward silence, weird giggles of uncomfortableness, and swaying back and forth as if they are going to head to the washroom.
What happens?
There are many factors to why others have a hard time to connect socially such as being shy or introverted, but even these individuals at some point connect with others.
Here is what I have discovered.
I recently was on a call with my coach, Christina Berkley, which I was in a situation of searching for answers within mys...
I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it was a nail. ~Abraham H. Maslow
There is a common denominator to many consulting and coach stories.
It always starts with a client who has a problem and is looking for an easy solution.
Usually from me.
Now I see very clearly that the client truly believes this is a dilemma, and their world is upside down because of it.
Even more so, they have tried everything they humanly thought was possible to solve the issue they were facing head on.
They are a bit taken back when I announce I find the solutions in them, not for them.
Sometimes, I get comments like, "Didn't you hear me, I have tried everything." or "Just tell me what to do and I will try that now instead of wasting time."
On a side note, have you ever seen that movie where the girl smacks the hyperventilating, overreacting guy who is screaming because he just saw a car crash and is NOT hurt?
Yeah, that is what I want to do, but instead, I coach.
On a...
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.
~Jim Rohn
As the New Year approaches, I have been doing a bit of reflecting.
Well, that's a bit of an understatement... a lot of reflecting.
As of a week ago, I had my last day of my "job".
I am on my own as an independent business woman.
I am not going to sit here and pretend I have it all figured out or even that I am not wondering if I did the right thing.
Those thoughts can easily creep into my mind and create a feeling of slight anxiety that I quickly have to shut up!
As I type the words above I can feel the ball of energy balling in my throat.
Not because I do not believe in myself, my abilities or my future, because my comfort for what I had is GONE!
What I have created, which took me a while to see, is the strength within myself to change, let go and grow.
Why is change so hard?
Fear!
Fear of the unknown, fear of not making it, fear of not being accepted, or fear of self worth.
The list can go on and on.
I have made...
Make your vision so clear that your fears become irrelevant.
~Unknown
There is something to be said about drifting off into a day-dream.
Going so deep within your own self that the person speaking to you, is just a gentle breeze on the beach.
All of a sudden their voice becomes a slight recognition and you gain knowledge of your whereabouts.
"Kryssie... Hey Kryssie, you with us?"
You come back to reality, and smile.
You have no idea where you were, how you put yourself into a deep state of nothing or wherever THAT was, it felt amazing.
About 2 years ago, I started researching what the top business owners were doing.
I studied how they managed their culture, their teams, their companies in a whole, their every day lives.
The one commonality of every single one of these successful beings was deep thinking, meditation, rituals of gratitude and clear visions.
These are top notch people like Oprah, the Richard Bransons' of the world, to Tony Robbins, to Richard Dolan and even Phil Town, who...
I think as we grow older our Christmas list gets shorter, because the things we want can't be bought.
~Unknown
December 1st and decorations are being carefully placed all over workplaces around the world.
Doors are being wrapped as if the manager is a gift to the corporation.
Trees are being decorated by the leaders on the work floor.
There are heads of reindeer antlers placed on the grills of vehicles.
Santa hats, elf hats, Christmas ball earrings and even ugly sweaters are being warn all around us.
Christmas lights brighten up that space where the over head light has been out for 6 months.
You have that warm and fuzzy feeling, and every time someone passes an elf hat or an ugly sweater, they are smiling!
Hell, even Betty and Marnie are getting along.
It's like the work space is under a spell!
There is a worker who announces there will be a collection of non perishable food for a hamper to give to the women's shelter.
Another colleague announces there will be a Christmas Dinner Gat...
I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.
~ Oprah Winfrey
The most powerful lesson I learned about human emotions was the rule of fear and love.
Love is what we were born knowing, feeling, and expressing.
Fear is what we are taught, and learn from outside sources.
The first time our mother holds us in our arms.
LOVE
The first time we take a step and stumble, mother gasps.
FEAR.
We go through life learning love and fear.
Sure, we label these two words with masks to try and describe our emotions in a way we can be heard, or understood.
We may express words to replace love like : happy, gratitude, joy, excited, energy, proud, trust, honored, appreciated and so forth.
Just like fear, there are many words that become the paradox, such as : hate, jealousy, anger, panic, stress, worry, embarrassment, and so on.
While you were reading these examples, did your mind explore the resemblances behind the love and fear?
Happy :...
If you hang out with chickens, you are going to cluck, if you hang out with eagles you are going to soar.
~Unknown
In order to explain the power of 5, I first believe I need to explain the power of energy.
The brain and your energy.
Energy is not only something you can use to turn a light bulb on in the house... it actually turns light bulbs on in your brain.
Keeping your brain energized is highly recommended as your brain uses 20% more energy than any other organ in your body.
Until now, most scientists believed that it used the majority of that energy to fuel electrical impulses that neurons employ to communicate with one another.
Turns out, though, that is only part of the story. (Stay with me, might get nerdy.)
A new study in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences USA indicates that two thirds of the brain's energy budget is used to help neurons or nerve cells "fire'' or send signals.
Lastly, however, is used for what study co-author Wei Chen, a radiol...